Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding … Continue reading Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
Two months ago I lost a friend. We had drifted, gone our separate ways. Although our lives parted the bond that we had when we were teenagers was still strong. My grief hurt, but my grief for his family, his wife, his children, his parents was even more painful. I’m not on social media all … Continue reading Walking with grief
The Four Horsemen of Relationships is a term that is thrown around a lot in the relationship counselling world. For the longest time I had no idea what this meant... yes, I can be really bad at understanding metaphors, my brain just seems to be painfully literal at times. But back to the point... what … Continue reading Relationship Patterns 101: The Four horsemen of relationships
I've moved! Still in Nanaimo, still downtown, and just a block away from the old space to the other Network Hub location on Skinner Street. My new address is 102-155 Skinner Street, Nanaimo, BC. I still work by appointment only, so be sure to contact me if you're interested in connecting. There is free two hour … Continue reading I’ve moved!
How hard it is for us as humans to clearly represent ourselves, our values and beliefs, in a way that maintains relationships with others? So often an emotional process gets in our way of us either being able to speak our truth, or in the way of us staying in good contact with the other person. … Continue reading Tackling those controversial conversations